smashing equal voting rights, adoption policies, affirmative action...oh yeah and that other thing

I'm often not sure what to say about marriage equality. How do you explain "the HRC is a terrible organization, privileges white cis gay people, especially men" and "marriage equality is a conservative cause" and at the same time, mention that many working-class LGBT families of color would do a lot better given marriage rights? How do you talk about the problem of marriage being assimilation and making it harder for other families (especially where kids are involved), without making your friends who are married or want to get married think you may be belittling their lifestyle choices or ignoring their economic needs? How do I say one thing in less than a paragraph this length?

But this post is a must-read. Calling in a Queer Debt.